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Books Curiosity Living

Working the Seams

This book highlight popped up in my morning Readwise feed recently:

“Fishermen work seams—seams between slow water and fast, between deep water and shallow, between sunlight and shadow. The eddies around rocks, the bubble lines along banks. That’s where the fish are.”

Neil King wrote it in American Ramble, his account of walking from Washington to New York. He was watching fishermen, not fishing himself, which maybe explains why it reads less like instruction and more like revelation. When you’re the observer, you have room to notice what the practitioner is too busy doing to say.

The word seams is doing something I can’t stop thinking about. A seam is a joining. It’s the place where two different things meet and, in meeting, create a third thing: the edge itself. Not slow water, not fast water, but the turbulent conversation between them. The fish aren’t in the slow water. They aren’t in the fast water. They’re in the argument.

I think most of the interesting things in life happen at seams.

The best conversations aren’t the ones where everyone agrees. They’re the ones where two people with genuinely different orientations are standing at the same edge, looking at the same water. The friction between the views creates something neither would reach alone.

The best writing isn’t the settled opinion, the fully-arrived-at conclusion. It’s the essay in the old sense — the attempt — where you can feel the writer at the seam of what they know and what they’re reaching toward. The bubble line between understanding and confusion. That’s where the reader is, too, if they’re lucky.

I notice this on my own blog sometimes. The posts that feel most alive to me aren’t the ones where I knew what I wanted to say before I started. They’re the ones where I began at a seam — between something I’d always believed and something that recently unsettled it — and wrote my way along the edge, not knowing which bank I’d end up on.

There’s a version of this that applies to attention itself.

I dwell on how I pay attention — when I’m reading, when I’m walking, when I’m in conversation. And I’ve noticed that my attention goes flat in the middle of things. Flat terrain. Constant depth. Unchanging light. I have to work to stay present when nothing is in transition.

But put me at a seam — a moment where the mood in a room is shifting, where a piece of music is about to resolve or refuse to resolve, where someone is on the verge of saying something they’ve been circling for an hour — and I’m completely there. Attention is predatory, maybe. It goes where the tension is.

Which is what the fish are doing, of course. The seam isn’t just a metaphor for where interesting things happen. It’s why interesting things happen there. The fast water sweeps food along; the slow water lets you hold your position; the seam between them is where you can eat without being eaten. The fish are solving a real problem. They’re just also, accidentally, living beautifully.

I wonder sometimes if this is what makes a good editor, or a good friend who reads your drafts. They find the seams — the places where you’ve unconsciously papered over a tension, smoothed the fast water into the slow, given the reader no place to be a fish. “Something’s off here,” they say, and what they mean is: you resolved this too quickly. Stay in the argument longer.

The eddies around rocks, the bubble lines along banks.

I want to be a better noticer of those. Not to resolve them. Just to work them.

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Travel

The Geometry of the Right Question

The heavy brass key lands on the polished mahogany desk with a satisfying clink. The concierge, impeccably dressed and professionally warm, pulls out a crisp, glossy map. With practiced efficiency, a red felt-tip pen circles a restaurant three blocks away.

It is an interaction defined entirely by transaction and expectation. We arrive in a new city carrying the coiled tension of the unfamiliar, desperate for a good experience. So, we ask the professional where we should go, and they give us the answer specifically engineered for people exactly like us. We want to pierce the veil of the tourist economy, to find the authentic pulse of a place, yet we instinctively rely on the very instruments designed to insulate us from it.

Kevin Kelly offers this approach to wayfinding for bypassing the polished veneer of travel:

“Don’t ask the hotel concierge where to eat. Ask almost anyone else, including drivers, and when you ask, don’t ask where is a good place you should eat; ask them where they eat. Where did they eat the last time they ate out?”

Notice the subtle geometry of that shift. When you ask someone “where is a good place to eat,” you are asking them to play the role of a critic. They instantly, often subconsciously, filter their response. They calculate what they think you can afford, what they assume your palate can handle, or what they believe is socially acceptable to recommend to a visitor. They hand you an idealized map.

But when you ask “where did you eat last,” you are asking for a historical fact. You are bypassing the curation of stated preferences and accessing the raw truth of revealed preferences.

I have spent too many evenings in unfamiliar cities eating perfectly fine, entirely forgettable meals at the places circled in red ink. I suspect many of us have. We hold onto the belief that authority figures hold the best secrets.

The architecture of our choices often limits the quality of our experiences. Kelly’s advice isn’t just a clever hack for finding a better dinner.

It is a fundamental truth about how we navigate the world at large.

We constantly ask the wrong people the wrong questions. We ask financial experts for their market projections instead of asking to see their personal portfolios. We ask successful people for their sweeping theories on productivity rather than asking what they actually did between 8:00 AM and 10:00 AM this morning. We ask for recommendations, which are inherently performative, instead of asking for evidence, which is unavoidably real.

The map is never the territory, and the concierge is rarely the guide. The unvarnished truth of a place—or a life—doesn’t live at the polished desk in the lobby. It lives out on the street, in the messy, uncurated reality of what people actually do.

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Living Music Writing

The Tonic Chord of a Life

We spend a good portion of our lives surrounded by noise. Not just the literal kind—the hum of traffic or the ping of notifications—but the internal noise of unresolved tensions.

I was reminded of this while listening to a recent conversation between David Perell and the legendary journalist Tom Junod (https://youtu.be/JnHTUyZjwiY). Towards the end of their sprawling, beautiful discussion, Junod introduced a metaphor about writing that made me pause the audio and just sit with it for a moment. He talked about the “tonic chord.”

“Musicians, you know, back in the day, they were always looking for the tonic chord. And writing, I’m always looking for the tonic chord… where all the discordant harmonies are resolved in a single ba-boom, you know, at the end of Beethoven or whatever… looking for some sort of resolution to the stuff that gnaws at me.” [00:39:42]

It’s a striking image. In music theory, the tonic is the home base, the center of gravity. It is the chord that finally brings rest after a long sequence of tension and suspense. Without the preceding dissonance, the tonic chord has no power. The chaos isn’t an obstacle to the resolution; it is the very environment that makes the resolution meaningful.

This applies far beyond the blank page. We are all, in our own ways, searching for our tonic chords.

We carry around the stuff that gnaws at us—the contradictions in our relationships, the career choices that look good on paper but feel hollow in the chest, the quiet hypocrisies we tolerate in ourselves. These are the discordant notes. We spend so much of our lives trying to ignore them, turning up the volume on our daily routines to drown out the clash. Or we try to fix them with brute force, stubbornly demanding harmony before we’ve even listened to the melody.

But maybe the point isn’t to erase the tension. Junod’s genius—both in his essays and in this metaphor—is his willingness to sit with the discomfort. He looks directly at the friction. He places two opposing truths right next to each other, letting them rub like tectonic plates, waiting patiently for that final chord to finally release the pressure.

I think about the architecture of a well-lived life in much the same way. The most resonant moments I’ve experienced haven’t come from a smooth, unbroken string of successes. They usually arrive right after a period of intense confusion or struggle—a sudden moment of clarity on a foggy morning walk, a tough but honest conversation with a friend, or finally letting go of an idea that had lost its spark.

That sudden ba-boom of clarity. The release.

We are taught from childhood that a good life should be harmonious. But true harmony is earned. It requires us to listen closely to the discordant parts of our lives, to bear witness to our own messes and mysteries, and to patiently search for the truth that finally brings them all together.

Often, it is the ultimate act of self-awareness.

Seek serendipity.

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Living Writing

The Origami Swan

Fold a piece of paper enough times, and it begins to take shape. It looks like a swan, but it isn’t one. It’s origami. Two-dimensional paper masquerading in a three-dimensional world.

There is a profound danger, both in writing and in how we move through life, of viewing people as origami. We see the folded edges—what they do, what they say, where they go—and we mistake the shape for the substance.

The sportswriter Wright Thompson borrows a concept from a college Tennessee Williams class to describe what is missing when we do this: interiority. It is the subterranean emotional reality happening beneath the visible actions of a character. Without it, scenes are flat. Without it, people are just paper swans.

Thompson builds on the philosophy of Gary Smith, who argues that every profile fundamentally asks the same question: What is the central complication of this person’s life, and how do they go about solving it every single day?

Almost all of that solving happens quietly, invisibly, on the inside. The exterior architecture of a person’s life is entirely meaningless until you understand the interior architecture holding it up.

But how do you communicate something so deeply internal? You can’t just tell the reader what someone is feeling. It feels cheap, unearned. Instead, Thompson uses a technique of “loading the object.” You find an exterior detail—a habit, a possession, an avoidance—and you charge it with interior meaning.

“The exterior action… is only meaningful if you’ve built the interior architecture first.”

Consider Michael Jordan. Thompson learned that Jordan falls asleep to old Westerns. As an isolated fact, it’s just a quirky celebrity habit. But Thompson also learned that Jordan misses his murdered father every single day, and that watching Westerns was something they used to do together.

By introducing the Westerns early and casually, Thompson loads the object. By the end of the piece, when he simply describes Jordan falling asleep to a Western, he doesn’t need to explain the grief. The reader already carries the emotional weight of the object. A completely mundane action becomes devastating.

The same is true of Tiger Woods naming his boats Privacy and Solitude. To the casual observer, they are just wealthy indulgences. But once you understand the interiority of an extreme introvert who has been force-fitted into a global, extroverted marketing machine since childhood, those names are no longer just names. They are a diagnosis.

Executing this requires two distinct disciplines. The first is deep observation—what journalists call reporting. You cannot manufacture interiority at the keyboard. As Thompson notes, whenever a scene feels flat, it is because he hasn’t dug deep enough into the reality of the person to earn the meaning. Overwriting is simply underreporting with a better vocabulary.

The second discipline is restraint. Once you have built the interior context, you must stop talking. You have to let the exterior action land in silence. The human instinct is to over-explain, to ensure everyone gets it. But the magic happens when you step back and trust the connection you’ve built.

There is a philosophical lesson here that extends far beyond writing. How often do we settle for the origami versions of the people around us? How often do we try to talk our way into understanding them, rather than doing the deep, quiet work of observing their “loaded objects”?

To truly understand another human being requires the discipline to look past the surface, the patience to uncover their central complication, and the grace to let their quietest moments speak for themselves.

Note: Be sure to watch this conversation between Wright Thompson and David Perell.

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Living

The Compound Interest of Ignorance

There’s an emotional navigation system within all of us, an internal map of behavior and consequence. We navigate by way of kindness, curiosity, and empathy.

Most days, we manage to keep the car on the road. But there is a particular intersection on this map, one that rarely ends well for anyone who finds themselves there, either driving or just walking by.

It’s the intersection where Annabel Monaghan located a particularly difficult archetype in Nora Goes Off Script. She describes it, with a precision that feels like the pop of a bubble, as “the corner of arrogance and cluelessness.”

“At the corner of arrogance and cluelessness, you find the worst kind of person.” (Annabel Monaghan, Nora Goes Off Script)

Indeed.

It’s easy, and frankly quite satisfying, to point fingers. We can all summon the mental image of someone parked right at that corner.

Perhaps it was a micromanaging boss who had never performed the basic function of the department. Perhaps it was a self-styled intellectual whose confidence was inversely proportional to their subject-matter expertise. We’ve all felt that specific, teeth-gritting frustration when faced with the wall of certainty erected by the fundamentally uninformed.

Arrogance on its own is, of course, rarely endearing. But there’s a difference between earned arrogance—the abrasive confidence of someone who actually knows what they are doing—and this unholy alliance. Pure arrogance is often about results; it says, “I am the best, and here is my proof.” It’s difficult to live with, but it is at least based on a form of reality.

Cluelessness, too, has its own nuances. We are all clueless about something (a truth that keeps life interesting). There is an innocence to genuine ignorance, an implicit opening for growth. To be clueless and know it is a temporary state. It’s the raw material for humility and learning.

But Monaghan’s observation zeros in on the specific danger when these two states merge.

Arrogance and cluelessness don’t just coexist; they compound.

This isn’t just a simple mistake (cluelessness) or just a big ego (arrogance). This is a system where the arrogance actively prevents the realization of the cluelessness.

The arrogance acts as a sturdy shield, deflecting any data, any feedback, any reality-check that might reveal the cluelessness underneath. The clues are everywhere, screaming from the spreadsheets or the strained smiles of everyone around them, but the arrogance filters them all out. This person cannot learn because the primary tool for learning—admitting you don’t know—is precisely what the arrogance forbids.

When you find yourself arguing with a person at this intersection, you aren’t arguing about facts. You aren’t arguing about solutions. You are trying to breach a fortress that has decided that the external world must adapt to its inner perception.

The “worst” part of it, the thing that makes it so toxic, is the casual destruction it wreaks. The person at this corner is navigating with a map they have drawn themselves, one that ignores all existing roads, all traffic lights, and every standard convention of behavior. They crash through the lives and efforts of others, convinced all the while of their own perfect navigation.

The hardest truth to swallow, though, isn’t about them. It’s about us. Because if we find this so true of others, the final realization is that none of us are immune to the lure of that corner. It’s an easy intersection to drift into. Whenever our confidence outpaces our real-world competence, whenever we get a tiny bit of power and a tiny bit of success and we think we know, we are in danger.

We are all just a bad day, a stressful project, or a momentary inflation of ego away from parking right at that corner ourselves. The antidote to that specific, devastating brand of arrogance isn’t trying to become more right; it’s remembering how deeply, often, and completely we are wrong.

Stay humble, stay foolish.

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Aging Living Paris Serendipity Street Photography

The Geometry of Choices: Life Beyond the Viewfinder

Every day, I walk past Henri Cartier-Bresson’s The Decisive Moment resting quietly on my bookshelf. Its spine is a familiar friend, a silent anchor in the room.

For Cartier-Bresson, the decisive moment was a photographic philosophy: the simultaneous recognition of the significance of an event, paired with the precise organization of forms that gives that event its proper expression. It is the fraction of a second where the head, the eye, and the heart perfectly align.

“To me, photography is the simultaneous recognition, in a fraction of a second, of the significance of an event as well as of a precise organization of forms which give that event its proper expression.” — Henri Cartier-Bresson

But as I caught sight of the book this morning, I realized how deeply this concept bleeds beyond the edges of a viewfinder. We tend to measure our lives in chapters and milestones—graduations, marriages, career shifts, relocations. We look at these grand events as the towering pillars of our personal history. Yet, if we look closer, the actual architecture of our lives is built on a series of fleeting, decisive moments.

Think about it. The true turning points rarely announce themselves with a booming voice or a dramatic swell of music. They are profoundly quiet.

It’s the split-second decision to take a different route home where you stumble upon a neighborhood you’ll eventually live in. It’s the pause before answering a question that completely changes the dynamic of a relationship. It’s the instant you decide to say “yes” to an unexpected invitation, opening a door to a career you hadn’t even imagined.

In these moments, just as in photography, there is a sudden geometry to our choices. The elements of our past experiences, our current desires, and our future trajectories suddenly arrange themselves into a perfect composition. We may not hear the click of a shutter, but the picture of our life is forever altered.

I run my finger over the dust jacket sometimes and think about the paths I didn’t take. The moments I hesitated just a second too long, and the composition dissolved into chaos. There is grace in those missed moments too, of course—they teach us how to hold our gaze steady for the next time.

The tragedy is that we often miss these fractions of a second entirely. We move too fast. We are too distracted by the noise of the future or the echoes of the past to recognize the composition forming right in front of us. We forget to keep our eyes open.

Cartier-Bresson roamed the streets of Paris with his Leica, intensely present, waiting for life to unfold. How often do we roam the streets of our own lives with that same level of presence?

To capture the decisive moments of our lives, we don’t need a camera. We need awareness. We need to cultivate a stillness that allows us to recognize when the head, the eye, and the heart are asking us to act.

It’s about trusting our intuition when the geometry feels right, even if we don’t fully understand the picture yet.

The next time you find yourself hesitating—caught in a quiet fraction of a second—pay attention. It might not be a milestone. It might just be an ordinary Tuesday. But it might also be the exact moment the elements of your life perfectly align.

Click.

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AI Anthropic Future

Escaping the Gravity of the Present

I was watching a YouTube conversation with Dario Amodei recently, and the comments he shared at the end got me thinking about how remarkably bad we all are at imagining the future.

Whenever I try to picture what the world will look like in ten or twenty years, I usually end up picturing today—just slightly shinier. If a prediction sounds too weird or disruptive, my brain automatically rejects it. It just feels too unmoored from the reality I woke up in this morning. We all have this instinct to retreat to the safety of incremental change.

But as Amodei points out, that comfort zone is exactly what blinds us. He notes that we are constantly tempted to dismiss massive shifts simply because they feel like they “can’t happen.”

“However, by extrapolating simple curves or reasoning from first principles, one often arrives at counterintuitive conclusions that surprisingly few people believe.”

It’s a strange feeling to look at a simple data curve, follow the math, and realize the logical endpoint sounds completely unhinged. The truest maps of tomorrow often look like bad science fiction to us today.

But there is a catch here, and it’s a mental trap I know I’ve fallen into before. You can’t just sit in a room and logic your way into the future. Pure logic, stripped of real-world friction, usually just leads you confidently in the wrong direction. Amodei suggests a much more grounded formula:

“The right combination of a few empirical observations and thinking from first principles can allow one to predict the future in ways that are publicly available but rarely adopted.”

This struck a chord with me. It’s easy to get swept up in purely theoretical thinking. But the better approach is to start with what is actually happening on the ground—the messy, undeniable data. From there, you strip it down to its most basic truths and follow the thread, no matter how strange the destination looks.

It takes a certain kind of intellectual courage to trust the math when your gut is screaming that things are getting too weird. But learning to decouple what is true from what feels normal might be the only real way to prepare for what is coming.

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Business

Everything You Need Is Out Front

Lee Child is not primarily known as a writer of consumer psychology, but Jack Reacher notices things — it’s rather the point of him — and in Nothing to Lose, Child gives his Jack a quiet moment of genuine curiosity:

“For many years Reacher had wondered why hardware stores favored sidewalk displays. There was a lot of work involved. Repetitive physical labor, twice a day. But maybe consumer psychology dictated that large utilitarian items sold better when associated with the rugged outdoors. Or maybe it was just a question of space.”

Reacher being Reacher, he files the observation and moves on.

But I couldn’t. Because he’s right — hardware stores do this, reliably and almost universally, and I’m not sure I’d ever consciously noticed it before reading that passage. Now I can’t stop noticing it.

There is something almost theatrical about the hardware store sidewalk display.

Wheelbarrows nested inside one another like Russian dolls. Stacks of plastic tubs in graduating sizes. Garden hoses coiled on hooks. Snow shovels in August, leaf blowers in April — the stock doesn’t always match the season, which suggests the display is less about merchandising logic than about something else entirely. It is a kind of flag, planted on the sidewalk: we are here, we are open, we have what you need.

Hardware stores occupy a peculiar and irreplaceable niche in the retail ecosystem. They are not quite like other shops.

A bookstore invites browsing; a grocery store moves you through a deliberate circuit; a clothing store sells you an idea of yourself. But a hardware store operates on a different premise entirely — the premise of the problem already in progress.

Nobody browses a hardware store the way they browse a bookstore. You come in because something is broken, leaking, stuck, squeaking, loose, or missing. You come in with a specific hole in your world that needs filling, and the hardware store’s job is to have the exact, obscure, oddly satisfying thing that fills it.

The sidewalk display, seen in this light, is a signal to that particular state of mind. It says: your problem is solvable. It projects competence and abundance before you even walk through the door. Those wheelbarrows and tubs and coiled hoses aren’t really for sale so much as they are reassurance — evidence that whoever runs this place has thought about what you might need and has made sure it’s available. The display is a promise made in hardware.

There is also something about the ruggedness of it — Reacher’s instinct about the outdoors isn’t wrong.

A bag of mulch sitting on a pallet in the open air feels different from the same bag of mulch on a climate-controlled shelf inside.

The independent hardware store does this better than the big box retailers, because the sidewalk display at a local hardware store carries the additional weight of relationship. The owner made a decision about what to put out front today, which means someone thought about it, which means someone is paying attention. The Home Depots of the world have sidewalk displays too, but they feel more like sheer marketing than curation.

Reacher suggests two reasons and moves on: consumer psychology, or space. Probably both. I suspect there’s also a third thing — the sidewalk display as an act of daily optimism.

Someone got up this morning, brought the wheelbarrows out, and arranged them on the sidewalk. They did it yesterday. They’ll do it tomorrow. They are betting that you will come around the corner with a problem and feel a small flood of relief when you see them there, ready.

Smart. And sort of comforting.

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AI

Claude Shannon’s Mirror: Signal, Noise, and Secrets

We spend a great deal of our lives trying to be understood. We shout into the void, send texts across oceans, and build increasingly complex tools to bridge the gaps between our minds.

Yet, equally human is the desire to conceal—to keep our thoughts private, to mask our vulnerabilities, to hide our signals in the static.

It seems paradoxical that communication and secrecy would share the same architecture. But Claude Shannon, the somewhat eccentric yet brilliant father of information theory, saw past the paradox. He recognized that building a bridge and building a fortress require the exact same understanding of physics.

In Fortune’s Formula, William Poundstone captures this dual realization perfectly:

“Shannon later said that thinking about how to conceal messages with random noise motivated some of the insights of information theory. ‘A secrecy system is almost identical with a noisy communications system,’ he claimed. The two lines of inquiry ‘were so close together you couldn’t separate them.'”

When we try to communicate over a noisy channel—a noisy radio or a crowded room—we are fighting entropy. We want our signal to survive the chaos so we can be heard.

When we encrypt a message, however, we are deliberately weaponizing that same chaos. We wrap our signal in artificial noise so dense that only the intended recipient possesses the mathematical filter to extract it.

It is a profound symmetry: clarity and obscurity are merely two ends of the exact same thing.

Today, one of our most advanced AI models is named “Claude” in tribute to Shannon. These neural networks are, at their core, sophisticated engines for separating signal from noise. They ingest the vast, chaotic, and often contradictory static of human knowledge and attempt to synthesize clarity and connection from it. They are mathematical mirrors reflecting Shannon’s earliest theories back at us.

But Shannon’s realization reflects something deeper about the human condition, far beyond the realm of zeroes and ones. We are all walking communications systems, constantly modulating our signals. Every day, we navigate an overwhelming digital landscape filled with deafening static.

Sometimes we desperately want the noise to clear so our true selves can be seen. Other times, we retreat behind a wall of our own generated static—small talk, busyness, deflection, and carefully curated avatars—to protect our inner world from being decoded by those who haven’t earned the key.

Perhaps the real wisdom of information theory isn’t just in knowing how to efficiently transmit a message, but in recognizing the sheer necessity of the noise itself. Without the static, the signal holds no meaning. Without the capacity for secrecy and privacy, the choice to be vulnerable and communicate clearly wouldn’t be nearly as profound.

It seems that we are defined as much by what we choose to encrypt as by what we choose to broadcast. Mirror indeed.

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Books

The Observer Observed

I first encountered Susan Orlean not in person, but in the ashes. Specifically, the ashes of the Los Angeles Central Library. Reading The Library Book was a masterclass in how to weave a forensic investigation with a love letter to a public institution. It was reportage, but it possessed a beating heart. She has spent decades at The New Yorker perfecting the art of the “curious observer”—the person standing just to the side of the frame, noticing the detail everyone else missed.

That is why picking up Joyride felt different.

In a memoir, the observer must finally step in front of the lens. The transition from The Library Book—which is about the preservation of collective memory—to Joyride—which is about the fluidity of personal memory—is a fascinating shift. When a journalist writes a memoir, there is often a tension. They are used to looking outward, hunting for the story in orchids or arsonists. Turning that gaze inward requires a different kind of bravery.

“A commute has a destination; a joyride has only a duration.”

The title itself suggests a specific philosophy of living. It implies that the movement itself is the point. As I read, I found myself thinking about the difference between navigating a life and simply driving through it. Orlean captures that distinct feeling of the wind in your hair, the blur of the scenery, and the realization that the “plot” of our lives is often just the things that happen while we are busy steering.

We read writers like Orlean not just for what they saw, but for how they saw it. In Joyride, she reminds us that the most interesting routes are rarely the most direct ones. A great read!