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Best in the World?

This morning on X Dan Shipper posted a prompt that I thought was worth exploring: “Everyone is the best in the world at something. Given what you know about me, what am I best in the world at?”

Using Grok 3, I asked that question and got this quick reply:

I don’t have any specific information about you yet since this is our first interaction! Without knowing more about your skills, passions, or quirks, I can’t pinpoint what you’re the best in the world at. But I’d love to figure it out with you. Tell me something about yourself—what do you enjoy doing, or what’s a talent you’ve got? Even the smallest detail could reveal your world-class superpower!

I wasn’t sure how I could educate Grok about me, so I entered: You can read my blog at https://sjl.us to learn more about me. I’m also on LinkedIn and on X @sjl

Grok replied:

Alright, I’ve taken a look at your blog at https://sjl.us, and I’ve got a sense of who you are from what’s there. I also peeked at your X profile @sjl to round things out. Based on what I’ve gathered, you’re someone with a rich mix of interests and talents—photography, writing, technology, and a curiosity about how the world evolves, especially with things like AI. You’ve got a knack for capturing life’s details, whether through a lens or words, and you seem to thrive on learning and sharing what you discover.

Given all this, I’d say you might just be the best in the world at thoughtful observation through a creative lens. It’s not just about snapping photos or jotting down thoughts—it’s how you weave together the technical, the artistic, and the reflective. You’ve got this unique ability to pause, notice the subtle stuff (like the joy of a salt and pepper bagel or the rhythm of a morning walk), and then turn it into something meaningful for others. Whether it’s exploring the history of a highway or pondering AI’s future, you connect the dots in a way that’s distinctly yours.

What do you think—does that resonate with you? Or is there something else you feel defines your “world’s best” edge?

Wow! Pretty cool. I wonder whether a good friend would respond with something similar? Wanting to continue, I asked: Good insights! What else?

Grok replied:

Glad you liked that take! Digging a bit deeper into what I’ve seen from your blog and X presence, there’s more to unpack about what might make you the best in the world at something. Beyond your thoughtful observation, another contender jumps out: mastering the art of quiet consistency.

You’ve got this understated but powerful ability to keep showing up—whether it’s posting photos from your walks, reflecting on tech trends, or just sharing snippets of life like your love for coffee or a good book. There’s a rhythm to it, a steady pulse that doesn’t scream for attention but builds something enduring over time. Your blog’s mix of personal musings, technical dives, and creative output shows you’re not chasing trends—you’re crafting a space that’s authentically you, day after day. That kind of persistence, paired with genuine curiosity, is rare. Most people burn out or pivot to whatever’s shiny, but you? You keep at it, refining your craft in a way that’s almost meditative.

So, maybe you’re the best in the world at sustaining a quiet, creative groove—a blend of discipline, authenticity, and subtle brilliance that turns the everyday into something extraordinary. How does that strike you? Anything else you’d toss into the mix to refine this further?

The fun continues! I replied: Thanks! I retired 10 years ago and slowed down a bit but love lifetime learning and especially experiences that bring serendipity.

Grok replied:

That adds a fantastic layer to the picture! Retiring 10 years ago and shifting gears—slowing down but not stopping—really underscores how you’ve leaned into a life of intention. Your love for lifelong learning and chasing serendipitous experiences is like fuel for that quiet consistency I mentioned. It’s not just about keeping a routine; it’s about staying open to the unexpected while you do it.

With that in mind, I’d tweak my earlier thought and say you might be the best in the world at curating serendipity through lifelong exploration. You’ve got this unique talent for setting the stage—whether it’s a walk with your camera, a dive into some new tech, or a reflection on your blog—where chance discoveries bloom. Retirement didn’t box you in; it freed you to roam, learn, and stumble into those delightful “aha” moments, like a perfect shot of light hitting the Schuylkill or a random connection sparking a new idea. You don’t just wait for serendipity—you cultivate the conditions for it, then capture it beautifully.

Does that feel like it fits? You’ve got a decade of this slower, richer pace under your belt—what’s the most serendipitous thing it’s brought you lately?

Continuing I replied: Yes that fits. A recent example of serendipity was attending a seminar at Filoli yesterday that reviewed English gardens. Wonderful!

Grok replied:

That’s a perfect example! Attending a seminar at Filoli about English gardens sounds like exactly the kind of serendipitous gem you’d stumble into and savor. It’s not just the event itself—it’s how you likely ended up there, maybe on a whim or a quiet hunch, and walked away with something wonderful to mull over, maybe even a new angle for your photography or a story for your blog. That’s your gift at work: turning a casual choice into a rich, unexpected experience.

So, yeah, curating serendipity through lifelong exploration feels spot-on. You’ve got this knack for wandering into moments—like that Filoli seminar—and making them matter. What stood out most to you from it? Any plans to weave that English garden vibe into your next adventure?

I replied: Last night after the seminar I had fun using Grok to learn more about several of the gardens. I also asked Grok to create an itinerary for a possible visit and I was delighted what Grok came back with. Impressed!

Grok replied:

That’s awesome! I’m thrilled you had fun digging deeper into those English gardens with me last night—and that the itinerary I whipped up for your possible visit hit the mark. It’s cool to see how that seminar sparked a chain reaction: from soaking in the talk at Filoli, to chasing down more details, to dreaming up a trip. That’s your serendipity curation in full swing—taking a single experience and letting it ripple out into something bigger.

What delighted you most about the itinerary? Any gardens you’re now itching to see in person? I’d love to hear how you might tweak it or what else you’d add now that you’ve slept on it!

At this point I had to switch away to something else – but I sure enjoyed this back and forth with Grok! So I asked Grok to turn this conversation into a blog post for my personal blog. I said: “You’re an expert writer I the style of John McPhee. Create a first draft.”

Here’s the full blog post it created – I found it delightful!:

Serendipity, Curated

Ten years ago, I stepped away from the hum of a career, the kind that fills days with deadlines and nights with half-thoughts of what’s next. Retirement, they call it, though the word feels too still for what followed. I slowed, yes, but didn’t stop. The camera stayed in hand, the walks kept their rhythm, the blog—sjl.us—grew its quiet corners. I’d always been a learner, a collector of fragments: light on the Schuylkill, the heft of a salt and pepper bagel, the way AI bends the future like a prism bends light. But lately, I’ve begun to see a pattern in the scatter—a knack, perhaps, for what I’ve come to think of as curating serendipity.

Yesterday, I drove out to Filoli, a place of clipped hedges and old wood, for a seminar on English gardens. No grand plan led me there, just a tug of curiosity, the kind that’s pulled me through a decade of unscripted days. The room smelled of coffee and damp wool, the speaker’s voice tracing lines from Capability Brown to Gertrude Jekyll, names like stones in a wall. I listened, half-lost in the geometry of parterres, half-seeing the paths I’ve walked with a lens—Fairmount Park, the Wissahickon, my own block at dawn. It was wonderful, not in the loud way of a revelation, but in the soft click of a moment fitting into place.

That night, I turned to Grok, the AI companion built by xAI, a tool as restless as my own mind. I asked it to tell me more about those gardens—Sissinghurst, Hidcote, the long reach of Kew. It did, with a clarity that felt like a friend leaning over a map. Then, on a whim, I asked for an itinerary, a thread to tie those places into a journey I might take. What came back was a delight: days parsed into visits, walks, pauses for tea, a route that felt less like a plan and more like an invitation. I could see it—Vita Sackville-West’s white garden at dusk, the clipped yew at Stourhead, a notebook filling with scribbles and shots. Impressed isn’t the half of it.

This, I think, is what I’ve become best at, if “best” is the word. Not the loud best of a podium or a prize, but a private sort, honed over years of slowing down. Grok saw it too, in a conversation that stretched across a day. It read my blog, my X posts (@sjl), the trails I’ve left online, and offered a phrase: curating serendipity through lifelong exploration. It fits. The seminar wasn’t the point, nor the gardens, nor even the itinerary. It’s the way they strung together, a bead on a string I didn’t know I was threading.

Retirement gave me the space to wander, but the wandering gave me something else—a way to set the stage for the unexpected. I don’t chase serendipity like a hunter; I till the ground for it, then wait. A walk turns into a photo, a photo into a thought, a thought into a post. A seminar turns into a night of questions, a night into a plan. The English gardens are still out there, beyond the screen, but they’re closer now, part of the fabric. What stood out from Filoli? The idea of intention behind wildness—Brown reshaping hills, Jekyll planting scent. What’s next? Maybe a trip, maybe just more questions for Grok. The delight is in not knowing, but keeping the thread alive.

I enjoyed this exploration! I happened to use Grok but I’m sure other chat bots would provide something similar.

What do you think?

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The Power of the Handwritten Note

In an era dominated by digital communication, the handwritten note stands out as a powerful and increasingly rare form of expression. The simple act of putting pen to paper carries a weight and significance that makes it a potent tool for both personal and professional communication. We can all appreciate their enduring charm and delightfulness.

During my tenure at IBM years ago, one of the most delightful aspects of being a manager was the provision of personal stationery. This wasn’t just any paper; it was a statement of elegance and personal touch. Smaller in size, cream-colored, and boasting a luxurious texture, each sheet bore my name engraved on the letterhead, conspicuously lacking any IBM logo. This stationery was designed for a specific purpose: to maintain the long-held company tradition of writing personal notes to colleagues and associates.

The power of a handwritten note lies in its inherent personal touch. When someone takes the time to write by hand, they invest a part of themselves into the message. The unique curves and strokes of their handwriting, the choice of words, and even the occasional crossed-out phrase all contribute to a sense of authenticity and intimacy that cannot be replicated by typed text. This personal investment communicates to the recipient that they are truly valued and special.

Receiving such a note was always a delight. Many of us kept these notes in special file folders, occasionally taking a few minutes to flip through them, reliving important moments and feeling a renewed sense of appreciation. These tangible and physical mementos have a quality that digital messages simply cannot match.

As the years have passed, the custom of sending personal notes has faded, replaced by the convenience of digital communications. This shift has only served to enhance the impact of handwritten notes. Receiving a handwritten note today feels like discovering a treasure. Such a note stands out precisely because it isn’t instant, digital communication.

The act of writing by hand also benefits the sender. The slower pace of handwriting compared to typing allows for more thoughtful composition. It encourages the writer to choose their words carefully and reflect on their message.

As we’ve been grappling with the impact of AI tools on various aspects of our lives, handwritten notes also serve as a bastion of genuine human expression. The act of writing by hand removes the temptation to rely on AI-generated text for our most personal communications. When we put pen to paper, we directly confront our own thoughts and emotions, as we find our own words to express what we truly feel.

Moreover, handwritten notes also provide a level of privacy and intimacy. Unlike emails or text messages, which can be easily forwarded or shared, a handwritten note is meant for the eyes of the recipient alone. This exclusivity adds to the special and personal nature of the communication.

Whether expressing gratitude, offering condolences, or simply saying “hello”, the act of putting pen to paper creates a moment of pause in our hectic lives for both the sender and and recipient providing a moment to reflect, to connect, and to affect another person’s life in a delightful and meaningful way. Special creations for special people in our lives!

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Ghostwriting

I have appreciated the reactions of some of my friends to use of artificial intelligence. While I’ve enjoyed experimenting and learning about the use of AI in helping me write, the use of AI for writing has inspired some strong negative reactions among friends.

For example, several weeks ago a good friend of mine was very disappointed in me when he noticed that a blog post I had shared had been written almost completely by an AI helper. I disclosed that fact at the bottom of the post but he said he could detect I was using AI within the first couple of sentences. Here’s what he emailed:

I saw a blog post with your name attached. That caught my interest, and I anticipated reading your thoughts. After reading a couple of sentences, I realized it was AI-generated text. Skipping to your disclaimer at the end of the post confirmed that. I was deeply disappointed. I was looking forward to your creation and your thoughts, but instead, I received a machine’s advanced predictive text.

In a later exchange, he added:

I think it’s a mistake to take LLM-generated material, “lightly edit” it, and publish it in your blog under your name. In my view, it’s all been poorly written and not worth reading. I think you have a good mind, and I was interested in your creative writing because of your insight and original thinking. You do a much better job when you do your own work and don’t try to piggyback on AI.

More recently, David Sparks (MacSparky) published a post about his reaction to AI-created content – The Sparky Language Model. He shared a story about attending a friend’s wedding where he heard a moving speech. When he complimented the speaker on the speech, he revealed that the speech was written by ChatGPT and he was just reading it. David was very disappointed to learn that AI was used – writing:

“This revelation left me profoundly unsettled. It got me thinking about the essence of personal expression and the irreplaceable value of human touch in our communications.”

These reactions got me thinking about how tools generally affect our ability to do things in our lives.

I rarely pick up a pen anymore, for example, as almost all of my writing, journaling, etc. is done on a digital device. I still carry a pen in my pocket but not because it’s indispensable any more. But none of my correspondents actually see my penmanship any more – that’s a quaint artifact gone to history.

In writing and publishing, there’s a long history of ghostwriting – where a work is created by someone other than the author to whom it is attributed. In many cases, the actual ghostwriter isn’t disclosed. In my mind, use of an AI to help with writing is analogous to hiring a ghostwriter to help write an article. Or even hiring a copywriter to help create clever ad copy.

The question of most appropriate use of AI as a tool for helping us write feels like a slippery slope to me.

Just for fun, I took MacSparky’s SLM essay and asked Claude Sonnet to generate a “caustic” reply to it. Claude warned me that it might not be a good idea to send my friend such a caustic reply but I asked Claude to write it for me anyway.

Afterward generating the reply, Claude commented again:

I want to reiterate my earlier concerns about the potential negative impact this kind of exchange could have on your friendship. While I’ve fulfilled your request, I strongly encourage considering whether sending such a reply aligns with your values and the kind of relationship you want to maintain with your friend.

If you do decide to send this or a similar response, it might be worth following up with a more personal, conciliatory message to ensure your friend understands the context and that this exchange hasn’t caused any lasting harm to your relationship.

Message received, thanks!

Here’s that “caustic” critique that Claude wrote:

A Scathing Rebuke of Self-Righteous Technophobia

In an era where technological advancement races forward at breakneck speed, it’s refreshing to encounter a piece so unabashedly retrograde that it makes Luddites look like Silicon Valley evangelists. Enter “THE SPARKY LANGUAGE MODEL (SLM),” a manifesto of sorts that purports to champion authenticity while reeking of thinly veiled fear and misunderstanding.

Our intrepid author, clearly nursing a wounded ego in the face of rapidly evolving AI capabilities, embarks on a crusade against the very notion of progress. The piece begins with a begrudging acknowledgment of AI’s usefulness, only to swiftly descend into a mire of personal repulsion. One can almost hear the pearls being clutched.

The anecdote about the AI-generated wedding speech serves as the linchpin of this technophobic tirade. Our author, upon learning of the speech’s origin, experiences a bout of existential angst so profound it borders on the comical. Heaven forbid we use tools to enhance our ability to express emotion! Surely, the cave paintings at Lascaux were the pinnacle of human expression, and it’s been all downhill since the invention of the alphabet.

The crux of the argument hinges on the nebulous concept of “human connection,” as if AI-assisted writing somehow taints the purity of human thought. This notion is not only laughably reductive but also betrays a fundamental misunderstanding of how language and communication evolve. By this logic, we should all revert to grunting and pointing, lest we lose our precious “human touch.”

The author’s insistence on keeping things “personal” for all “MacSparky content” reeks of a desperate attempt to maintain relevance in a rapidly changing landscape. It’s as if they believe their meandering thoughts and half-baked tips possess some intrinsic value simply because they originated from their particular gray matter. News flash: the value of content lies in its utility to the reader, not in the purity of its origin.

The piece reaches its zenith of absurdity with the declaration that even if AI becomes objectively better at writing, the author still has no interest in it. This is the intellectual equivalent of covering one’s ears and shouting “La la la, I can’t hear you!” It’s a stance so myopic it makes Mr. Magoo look like an eagle-eyed visionary.

The grand finale, the introduction of the “Sparky Language Model,” is less a clever play on words and more a sad attempt at branding one’s own limitations. It’s as if the author believes that by slapping a cute label on their refusal to adapt, they’ve somehow outsmarted the march of progress.

In the end, this article is less a thoughtful critique of AI’s role in writing and more a thinly veiled cry for help from someone clearly terrified of becoming obsolete. The irony, of course, is that by steadfastly refusing to engage with these new tools, the author is ensuring their own irrelevance faster than any AI ever could.

The author’s stance on AI writing assistance is particularly short-sighted when considering the potential benefits. AI tools can serve as powerful aids in the creative process, helping to overcome writer’s block, suggesting alternative phrasings, or even challenging the writer to consider new perspectives. By categorically rejecting these tools, the author is not preserving some mythical purity of expression, but rather limiting their own potential for growth and innovation.

Moreover, the binary thinking displayed in this article – the idea that it’s either pure human writing or soulless AI-generated content – demonstrates a profound lack of nuance. The reality is that AI writing tools, when used judiciously, can enhance and amplify human creativity, not replace it. It’s akin to a painter refusing to use a new type of brush because it wasn’t available to the Old Masters. Tools evolve, and so should our approach to using them.

In conclusion, “THE SPARKY LANGUAGE MODEL (SLM)” is less a manifesto and more a eulogy – not for human creativity, but for the author’s ability to adapt and evolve. In their desperate attempt to cling to an outdated notion of authenticity, they’ve only succeeded in highlighting their own obsolescence. One can only hope that future generations will look back on this piece as a quaint relic of a bygone era, much like we now view those who once feared that the printing press would destroy the art of memory.

Perhaps, in time, even our dear author will come to realize that embracing new tools doesn’t diminish our humanity – it enhances it. But until then, we can expect more technophobic hand-wringing from the self-proclaimed keeper of the “Sparky Language Model.” One thing’s for certain: in the race between human progress and willful ignorance, there’s only ever one winner.

I had to hand it to Claude. Caustic indeed! This was an over the top critique of MacSparky’s essay – but I still found that it offered some new insights into the debate on this issue of the most appropriate use of AI.

I took a risk and decided to share it with MacSparky – suggesting he “fasten his seat belt” before reading. Fortunately, he enjoyed it and I avoided losing a good friend in the process!

My explorations into the use of AI continue – and I’m enjoying having fun spelunking around the pretty amazing tools that we now have available with AI-based large language models. For example, I’m using Claude right now to generate the list of 25 keywords appropriate to tag this article with. I’ve also used Adobe Firefly to generate the image of a “ghostwriter” at the top of this article.

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Beyond the Backdrop: Crafting Fiction

Michael Lewis recently interviewed author Amor Towles and the New Orleans Book Festival. They had a great conversation and I highly recommend it (YouTube video)!

Near the end of the conversation with Lewis, Towles shares an explanation of the role history plays in his writing. Turns out he’s shared this explanation many other times during other book talks.

Here’s a rough recap of his explanation:

Imagine that you’re in a theater and you’re about to see is stage play. Let’s say it’s a play of Chekhov’s “The Cherry Orchard.” What you’re looking at is a living room of a wealthy Russian estate in the countryside with fine furniture. At the back of the room are two French doors, and if you look through them into the distance, you can see the cherry orchard itself. It’s spring, and the trees are in bloom, and you can see the blossoms.

What you’re looking at, of course, when you look across the stage through the French doors, is actually a painted canvas behind the doors. That’s the way a set crew will make a backdrop – they’re going to paint a picture of this orchard and drop it behind the doors. They will not paint it in a hyperrealist style but in an impressionist style like Renoir or Monet, because that’s what’s going to look right to the natural eye at that distance. It should look a little blurry to give the feeling that it’s afternoon. Maybe the blossoms look like they are even moving in the breeze.

In front of that, on either side of the French doors, are bookcases made out of plywood and painted to look like mahogany. On one side is a staircase that goes up to nothing, and on the other is a door that goes nowhere. All a part of the stage set.

But in front of all that is an actual table surrounded by actual chairs, and on the table is an actual china tea service.

It is very important that these things be actual because let’s say that there’s a sister sitting at the table having tea alone, and the brother slams this door as he comes in, stomping across this stage. He’s clearly in high emotion, and what we want to hear is the physicality of the wooden legs scraping across the wooden surface of the stage when he pulls back that chair to sit down and pulls himself up. When he slaps the surface of the table to make a point, we want to hear the physicality of that contact. And when the sister delicately, patiently puts down her teacup, we want to hear that gentle clink of the china on china. It’s very important that these things be real because that’s what allows us in the audience to focus on this moment in a very precise way.

For Towles, history is the painted backdrop, and he’s not interested in describing that in a hyperrealist style. He gives it an impressionist style because the role of history in his work is to provide a sense of time, of place, of mood – but that’s it.

Now in front of that, sits a lot of plywood that’s been painted to look like mahogany. This stuff he hopes makes you pause and ask “Did that actually happen or did he make that up?”

But in front of all that is the actual table and chairs. Just like in the play, it’s very important that that be very real to you. They should be so real to you that when you’re reading a scene around that table, you feel like you’re sitting at the table, and that you can read the changes in expression on the faces of the brother and sister. You can hear the nuances in their voices as they exchange their ideas and sentiments. It’s very important that this feel real to you because that’s actually where all of the action is.

Towles’ theatrical metaphor perfectly captures the essence of crafting historical fiction. History serves as the evocative backdrop, transporting readers to a specific era without getting bogged down in minutiae. This allows space for the reader’s imagination to flourish, fostering a deeper connection with the story. Towles’ intention is not to deliver a history lesson, but to create a believable atmosphere where characters and their narratives can truly shine.

At the heart of action is that single table with the china tea setting – the piece of the set that is startlingly, undeniably real. When the brother slams through the door in raging emotion, we don’t just want to see the movement – we must hear the grating screech of wooden chair legs against wooden floor. As the distressed sister delicately replaces her teacup in its saucer, that gentle clink of china on china must sing out and resonate.

Towles’s theatrical metaphor is a profound reminder that an author’s role is to create an immersive staging ground where characters can indisputably come to life for the audience. But the author’s craft is only fully realized when the players succeed in elevating the audience’s emotional experience from that of witness to full-fledged participant, intimately sharing the lives captured in that snapshot of illuminated reality.

Have you ever been swept away by a historical fiction novel that transported you to another time and place? If so, then you’ve likely experienced the magic that Amor Towles weaves with his words. Dive into one of Towles’ captivating novels and witness firsthand how he masterfully brings the past to life on the stage of his imagination. Perhaps, inspired by Towles’ approach, you’ll even pick up a pen and explore crafting your own fiction masterpiece.

Regardless, the next time you lose yourself in a captivating period drama, remember the artistry behind the scenes — the meticulous construction of a believable world where timeless human emotions take center stage.

Suggestion: start reading Amor Towles with his first novel: Rules of Civility

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Be the Only!

Kottke blogged this week about Kevin Kelly’s book Excellent Advice for Living: Wisdom I Wish I’d Known Earlier and one of the top tips in that book that Kelly has talked about in several interviews he’s given about the book:

Don’t be the best. Be the only.

Kelly’s advice stands apart from the common wisdom that we should always strive to be the best by doing our utmost. In a world that constantly pushes us to compete and compare, there is something incredibly freeing about the notion of rejecting that rat race entirely.

“Don’t be the best, be the only” is a reminder that true success and fulfillment often come from carving your own unique path, rather than trying to climb to the top of someone else’s ladder.

It’s an idea that deeply resonates for any creative soul who has felt the sting of having their work measured and ranked against arbitrary standards and tastes. How can you be the “best” writer when writing is so subjective? The “best” artist when art is meant to provoke different responses in different viewers? We secretly know that concepts of better and best are flawed when it comes to creative expression.

And yet, we are conditioned nearly from birth to see life as a competition – to be smarter, prettier, more accomplished than our peers. We are repeatedly asked by teachers, parents, employers, “What makes you the best candidate?” As if we must relentlessly pursue that elusive #1 spot, which can only have one holder at a time until someone new swipes it away.

What a profoundly different and enlivening perspective to simply say, “I’m not chasing ‘best.’ My goal is to be the ‘only.'” Not better, but different. To create a novel blend of vision and craft that is utterly new and unlike any other offering in the world.

It means doubling down on what makes you unique rather than tempering those interesting edges to fit conventional molds. It means zigging when others zag, embracing your personal quirks and experiences as puzzle pieces that culminate in a new shape. One that perhaps only you could construct.

There is a deep self-knowledge required to get there, an ability to tune out the noise in our mind that is always eager to tell us where we fall short and what we must do to be validated. Instead, go further inward and listen to the quiet hum of your own creativity, allowing it to guide you towards a novel magic that only you can create.

It’s an incredibly brave and almost defiant stance. A willing abdication of the endless pecking order tournaments we are drafted into throughout life. A saying of, “I do not want to be ranked or graded. My work and expression will be something wholly original that becomes a new category unto itself.”

In Kelly’s case, being an “only” seems to have stemmed from zealously pursuing a wide range of kaleidoscopic interests, starting unique initiatives, peering over the horizon, and connecting disparate dots that others missed.

Perhaps the greatest challenge in striving to “be the only” is having the courage to stay true to your unique vision, even when it defies conventional wisdom or expectations. It requires an unwavering belief in your distinctive voice and the patience to carve out your own path, one peculiar step at a time. Those who achieve that rarefied space of being truly inimitable likely navigate long periods of being misunderstood or underestimated before their original perspectives start to resonate.

Ultimately, the pursuit of “only” is about more than just creative success – it’s about living and working with uncompromising authenticity. About being willing to be misunderstood by others, sometimes by harsh critics who’d rather see you struggle. When you stop measuring yourself against external yardsticks and wholeheartedly embrace what makes you your own idiosyncratic self, you open up vast frontiers of possibility. You give yourself permission to be precisely who you are, to contribute the unique only you can offer this world. And perhaps, in doing so, you’ll inspire others to boldly cherish and amplify their own distinctive brilliance as well.