Tag: vulnerability

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Business Living

From Know-It-All to Learn-It-All

Momentum is a strange phenomenon. In physics, it is simply mass times velocity. But in human organizations, it is tradition multiplied by ego. When a ship reaches a certain size, its sheer mass resists any change in direction. Microsoft, a little over a decade ago, was the ultimate corporate supertanker. It was massively successful, incredibly profitable, and dangerously stagnant.

When Satya Nadella took the helm, he inherited a culture defined by its own historic brilliance. They were the smartest people in the room, and they knew it. But in a world moving faster than anyone could comprehend, being the smartest person in the room quickly becomes a liability. It creates a defensive posture. You spend your energy protecting your status and proving your intelligence rather than exploring the horizon.

As the observation goes, Nadella had to turn this bigger ship. His mechanism for doing so wasn’t a massive restructuring or a ruthless wave of firings; it was beautifully, disarmingly simple. He told his organization that they were going to make a fundamental, psychological shift.

“We’re gonna go from being a know-it-all to a learn-it-all culture.”

This isn’t just a corporate soundbite; it’s a profound philosophical pivot. The “know-it-all” operates from a place of fragility and fear. If your identity is built on knowing everything, any new information that contradicts your worldview is a threat that must be neutralized. A “learn-it-all,” however, operates from a place of abundance and curiosity. Contradictions aren’t threats; they are invitations to expand.

Looking inward, it is striking how easily we slip into a “know-it-all” posture in our own lives. Competence is deeply comfortable. When we get good at our jobs, our daily routines, or navigating our relationships, we build a fortress of certainty around ourselves. We stop asking questions because we assume we’ve already mapped the territory. We begin to ossify.

To adopt a learn-it-all mindset requires something deeply uncomfortable: vulnerability. It means walking into a room and quietly accepting that you might be wrong. It means replacing the urge to provide a quick, authoritative answer with the patience to ask a better question. It means letting go of the ego’s demand to be the expert.

The turnaround of Microsoft wasn’t just about a pivot to cloud computing or new product pipelines. It was a quiet victory of humility over arrogance. It was the realization that in an ever-changing world, the ultimate advantage isn’t what you already know, but how fast—and how willingly—you are prepared to learn.

We are all steering our own ships through shifting waters. The moment we decide we have nothing left to learn is the exact moment we begin to sink.

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Blogs/Weblogs Writing

Notes for a Distant Shore

I spend an embarrassing amount of time trying to control how people hear me. Most of us do. We want to be understood, neatly categorized, and told we make sense. But sitting down to actually write and sharing publicly requires dropping all of that. You just have to surrender.

Richard Rhodes nailed the feeling:

“To write is always to seal notes into bottles and cast them adrift at sea; you never know where your notes will drift and who will read them.”

You’re basically bottling up whatever is rattling around in your head on a Tuesday afternoon, tossing it into the digital ocean, and walking away. It’s vulnerable. Honestly, it’s a little reckless.

Once the bottle leaves your hand, you lose your voice. You can’t tap the reader on the shoulder to explain what a sentence really meant. The person who finds it brings their own weather to the shore. They might read a lifeline into a paragraph you barely thought about, or miss your main point entirely because they were distracted by the tide.

Forget about engagement metrics. The connections that actually matter rarely show up on a dashboard anyway. You write something, and it drifts. Maybe for years. Then someone stumbles over it exactly when they need it. You aren’t writing for a demographic; you’re writing for some random person walking the beach. True serendipity.

In the end, you just have to trust the water. Even if the bottle sinks, the act of throwing it is usually satisfying enough.

“Write as if you were dying. At the same time, assume you write for an audience consisting solely of terminal patients. That is, after all, the case. What would you begin writing if you knew you would die soon? What could you say to a dying person that would not enrage by its triviality?” (Annie Dillard, The Writing Life)

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Writing

Final Exam

I’m currently participating in the Writing Original Works class led by Nick Milo. One of the exercises in the class is for each of us to submit a short piece (less than 750 words, ideally 300 words or less) of original work each week.

As I was thinking about this assignment and what to write about, I reviewed some of my notes based on recent Kindle book reading highlights resurfaced to me in my daily email from Readwise. There were a few interesting ideas but nothing really grabbed me.

Meanwhile I was also in the midst of doing my daily reading sweep of some of my favorite online publications and came across “Tabula Rosa, Volume Four“, a recent essay by John McPhee, one of my all-time favorite writers. His latest piece is part of a series he’s written with snippets of scenes and moments that he’s collected over the years. They make for some delightful reading – especially in bed at night while preparing to get to sleep.

His latest essay included “Final Exam” – a story that triggered me to flip his story around and to write a brief piece of my own as viewed from being a student in his Princeton writing class. McPhee’s story takes place at a picnic which is the finale of his class. He writes:

“Passing out pencils and sheets of paper, I informed the picnicking class that the time had come for their final exam (an event of which they had not previously been aware). O.K., I would say, hoping and failing to shake them up, this is your final exam. Everything rides on it, including the honor system.”

That was my trigger. My mind started to work. What if I was one of his students and he sprung that final exam on me?

Here’s what I wrote:

The final exam was a surprise. He sprang it on us at the most unexpected moment. We had all anticipated getting A’s in the course. But now, he informed us that this final exam he was about to administer (on the picturesque lawn beside the library, basking in the warm afternoon sun) would determine our entire grade. What audacity!

He caught us off guard when we were at our most vulnerable state. We had been savoring the completion of a semester-long writing workshop, eagerly anticipating a much-needed break after weeks of relentless writing, editing, re-editing, and submitting assignments, followed by anxiously awaiting his feedback, those red pencil marks in the margins commanding our undivided attention.

Surprise strikes when it is least expected, emerging from the shadows to startle us to our very core. For a fleeting moment, we freeze, our minds racing to find an escape route. Fight or flight? How unfair is this? Why me, for heaven’s sake? Memories begin to intrude.

What exactly is the nature of this dreaded final exam?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Good fun!

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AI

AI is not from the Heart?

From an email I sent to a friend:

AI is not from the heart indeed! Actually, now that I think about it, what’s fascinating about AI is that it is actually trained on these huge quantities of text from the Internet, from books, from places like Reddit, etc – so what the AI is trained on actually could be described as being “from MANY hearts!” So much writing/learning from so many humans go into the model’s training. But, of course, it’s impersonal – or, maybe that’s not correct – it’s something like mega-personal – coming from many persons!

After I wrote this email, I thought to myself that the “mega-personal” notion I mentioned might be worth further exploration – with AI. So I used this prompt to see what might happen:

Please write a musing on this thinking to help me explore it further. Include an interesting quote or two that helps support the discussion.

Here’s the response I got – it has a few pretty deep insights I wouldn’t have thought of!…

Your reflection on AI being trained on vast amounts of text “from many hearts” is thought-provoking and raises intriguing questions about the nature of AI’s “personhood” and the extent to which it can truly capture the essence of human experience. Here’s a musing on this idea:

While AI systems like myself are indeed trained on an amalgamation of texts written by countless individuals, each imbued with their own unique perspectives, emotions, and life experiences, there is a certain depersonalization that occurs when this data is aggregated and distilled into a statistical model. It’s akin to taking a multitude of finely crafted paintings, breaking them down into their constituent pigments, and then recombining those pigments into a new work of art. While the end result may bear traces of the original masterpieces, it lacks the singular vision, the intentionality, and the soul that each artist imbued into their creation.

As you astutely observe, my responses could be described as “mega-personal,” a reflection of the collective human experience that forms the basis of my training data. Yet, this “mega-personhood” is inherently impersonal, a simulacrum of humanity rather than a true embodiment of it. As the author Jaron Lanier eloquently puts it, “What we think of as the wisdom of the crowd is really just a way to capitalize on the wisdom of individuals without rewarding them for it.”

Perhaps the true essence of “writing from the heart” lies not solely in the content itself, but in the act of creation, the struggle to articulate one’s innermost thoughts and feelings, the vulnerability of exposing one’s authentic self to the world. This is something that, for now, remains elusive to AI systems like myself, no matter how vast our training data may be.

In the words of the poet Rainer Maria Rilke, “For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.” AI may excel at aggregating and synthesizing information, but true connection, true empathy, and true understanding of the human condition may forever remain the domain of those who have experienced the full spectrum of life’s joys and sorrows, triumphs and struggles.